Are you feeling ‘a little off’?

Sometimes we know we don’t feel quite right....We may recognise some signs such as our friend who usually makes us laugh is now being irritating, other drivers on the road are being obnoxious and keep targeting us with their bad driving and even the family pet is being annoyingly suffocating. It feels like the world has it in for us.

Sometimes we can genuinely find ourselves in toxic situations, toxic environments and among toxic people and we need to work on removing or distancing ourselves from them. Sometimes however, the problem is with us. At these times when we feel 'a little off', a willingness to dig a bit deeper and be honest with ourselves is essential. 

The next time you find yourself feeling this way, try asking yourself the following questions to gain some clarity:

1. What emotion do I feel at this moment? (e.g. frustration, sadness, resentment, grief, guilt, etc)

2. Where do I feel it in my body? (Becoming familiar with how the emotion presents itself in your body increases your capacity to be with the emotion)

3. Because of this emotion, what do I want to express? (Journal, note it down or say it out loud to yourself to clarify the message that the emotion wants to convey.

4. What small step can I take to meet my need(s)? 

At this point it will become clearer whether the circumstances we are in need to change or whether our own approach needs to change. It may be a combination. By getting into the habit of knowing how we feel and taking steps to meet our own needs we can be better equipped to respond to future situations with consideration rather than react impulsively. It gives us a chance to improve the relationship we have with ourselves, clarify our life choices and consequently improve our relationships with others.

I have been supporting people to become less reactive and more aware of their own needs for many years now. Helping them release what is weighing them down in their thoughts, beliefs and energy field and replacing them with fresh insights, clear direction to move forward with authenticity. Contact me if this is something you want to start or go deeper with. I’d love to help!